OUR SISTER'S HOUSE - helping women go from domestic violence to understanding their self worth.

It’s not easy talking about something you get embarrassed about. What many people don't understand is that it get embarrassing telling people what has been done to you by someone you claim to love and who you think (at first) loves you.

I met him in high school and thought he was my knight in shining armor. It sounds so corny, but because I was overweight and everyone but him made fun of me, that’s what I thought. I didn’t realize then he was just pretending to be an ally, a friend, a confidant and eventually my boyfriend.

Years later, I met him again and at that point my self esteem had not been bolstered one bit. I still saw myself as that chubby, unloved, unwanted little girl; even though I was an adult. We started dating, I got pregnant, we had a son. And all through that time he was manipulating me, isolating me, physically and emotionally abusing me. But by that time I was so in love…all I thought was that I could change him and make him into the person I knew he could be. But he just took that and used it to manipulate me more. The black eyes, busted lips, missing hair on my head, bruised arms and legs were invisible to me because I told myself he didn’t mean it…but he did, he meant every rotten thing he had ever done to me and I simply ignored it.

By this time, my family and friends were all but gone having given up on helping me to see what was really going on. They finally told me they knew I was lying about all the bumps and bruises. When they tell you to your face they know, that’s when it really starts getting embarrassing. And then you have nowhere to turn, nowhere to go. You begin to sink into it all as the abuse becomes a normal part of your life. And then one day, you just disappear. You look at your world as if it’s not you, it’s someone else…you’re watching a video of horrors and this cannot be you…but it is. That’s when you realize you have to get out or you will never find yourself again. That’s when you know, that one day, you’ll never be able to come back if you don’t leave. That is when you have a moment of clarity and realize your life is at stake, and this is not normal, and this may be your only chance at freedom. That’s when you make the call. And if you are lucky, you can somehow, with whatever resources you have, pull yourself out of the hell you’ve been in, out of the nightmare, and wake up to your life. I had to do that, but I did not do it alone. I owe my life to the help that was out there.

So, whoever you are, wherever you work, in whatever capacity that assists victims of domestic violence…thank you! You have saved a life and I hope you know, I was worth it!

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Blossom is committed to continuing our mission to bring women together and inspire them to raise funds through our giving circles which address the needs of women and girls in the Puget Sound and globally. We know in the coming months philanthropy will be critical to preserving the social service safety net that women and girls depend on here in our community and across the globe. Our giving focus for 2020 is more important than ever given the impact of this pandemic.


While the impact of COVID-19 is extraordinary, each of us can all make a difference by supporting the people, organizations, and causes that create thriving communities. Blossom encourages each of you to give generously in any way you can. As this time and as you are able, give to organizations you know and care about so they can continue to provide critical supports to our community.


Global pandemics affect every aspect of our lives and women experience a deeper and disproportionate impact given our predominant roles as caregivers. Women also work in the fields most impacted by this crisis including health care, childcare and the service industry. To learn more about how COVID-19 impacts women and girls:

Women and girls who are already more vulnerable to economic and health insecurity are facing additional challenges during this time. Women and girls who are surviving violence in their relationships may be experiencing increased isolation and danger caused by social distancing and survivors, in particular, may have special needs around safety, health and confidentiality which are being unmet. To learn more about far reaching consequences and challenges:


Blossom is continuing to invest in organizations that uplift women and girls and we hope you will consider joining us to pool our contributions and have an even bigger impact. Our plan is to keep our giving focus on personal safety for our 2020 giving cycle, but to move up our timeline for selecting organizations to receive our donations so that we can provide support throughout the year during this crisis when many nonprofits are unable to raise funds that they typically rely on to keep their doors open.


Please plan to join us for a virtual Founder's Giving Circle meeting on Friday, April 3rd at 7 pm. We will have a virtual icebreaker, lively conversation, and the opportunity for you to share information about nonprofits you think we should consider supporting this year, with a focus on personal safety during this global pandemic.

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